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To Each According to Their Leverage

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August 14, 2026·Christian J Charette, LMFT

Remember Jamestown, 1609?

The story our eighth-grade history teachers told us to reinforce the capitalism narrative? Here’s how it went. There’s a common storehouse at the center of the settlement, the whole colony’s harvest going in and the whole colony eating out of it, and by the second winter people are starving inside a system built, in good faith, to keep them fed. Men who broke their backs in the field watched men who didn’t, and everyone drew the same ration. Then the colony changed one rule. It handed out private plots, and the man who got to keep what he grew finally grew something.

You already know the moral people pin on this. Sharing failed. Men are lazy. Private property is just the shape reality comes in, and the sooner you make your peace with that the better.

I keep asking myself why that’s the moral everyone reaches for, when it doesn’t actually fit what happened.

Plenty of shared arrangements don’t collapse. Monasteries ran a common purse for centuries. Kibbutzim did it for generations. Small tight communities do it all the time without ever writing a theory about it. If people always devoured the ones who worked hardest, none of that could exist. So the thing that broke at Jamestown was never sharing. It was that a hundred strangers couldn’t see who was working, and couldn’t do anything about who wasn’t. There was no detection, no sanction. Pull those two out and anyone can hide in the crowd. Keep them and a commons can hold for a thousand years.

So if you’re paying attention, there’s a phrase going around because of our current political climate. From each according to his ability, to each according to his needs. They quote it like a confession Marx left lying around, and they almost never know that he set it at the far end of a long road, in an 1875 argument, describing a world of such abundance that nobody would have to be forced to pitch in. Need-based distribution was the finish line. It was never the starting gun. He put it at the end, and everyone quotes it at the beginning, which is exactly how you end up blaming the destination for everything that went wrong on the on-ramp.

So the folks using it to explain a starving colony have the thing backwards. And they’ve got the wrong target too, because the free rider was never the man at the bottom of the store.

Free-riding isn’t laziness. It’s a question of who holds the whip. A person can only take without giving in one situation, where nobody can see him, or nobody can touch him. Which means the man best set up to take isn’t the one sneaking a second helping in the field. It’s the one who gets to write the rules of the store. Whoever controls the enforcement is the one the enforcement never reaches.

Now look at the store we actually live in.

Here’s where I keep landing. The enforcement in this country isn’t missing. It’s aimed. It runs hard at the bottom and soft at the top, and it does that on purpose. Take money you weren’t owed down at the bottom and the whole machinery comes for you, means-tested, audited, referred for prosecution, over sums that wouldn’t cover a rich man’s dinner. Take orders of magnitude more at the top, by writing the rules so the taking comes out legal, and the same machinery goes quiet. Same detection. Same sanction. Pointed down.

That’s the inversion. Not the many taking from the few. The few taking from the many, and arranging it so the many are the ones who get checked.

You don’t have to take my word for it. It’s happening right before our very eyes. Remember DOGE? It promised to cut two trillion dollars in waste, walked that down to one, then stood in front of the country and claimed two hundred and fifteen billion. The government’s own auditors went through the receipts. The real number was a few billion at best, a rounding error against the promise, and a chunk of the ledger was contracts marked cancelled that were never cancelled at all. And most of even that doesn’t lower the deficit by a dollar, because the law hands the money right back to the agencies to spend. It was theater. A cost-cutting show that cut almost nothing and then audited itself into a lie.

Musk’s companies had already taken at least thirty-eight billion dollars in federal contracts and loans and subsidies over two decades. And the agencies he gutted were, over and over, the exact ones investigating his own companies. Not a coincidence. A pattern. A Senate accounting found at least eleven of them, with better than two billion dollars of his own legal exposure sitting inside their open files. He kept the contracts that pay him and knifed the regulators who were closing in on him. That isn’t waste-cutting. That’s a man handed the keys to the store and using them to burn his own file.

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Read it as a man cutting waste and the numbers fall apart in your hands. Read it as ownership, a man who got to write the rules of the store, and every line snaps into place. The detection and the sanction weren’t reduced. That same man turned them around and aimed them away from himself, the one person in the country least willing to be watched.

The mistake people make here is thinking the whole thing runs on envy, that ordinary folks just resent the rich and want to drag them down. Sit with a working family long enough and you learn it’s not that at all. People don’t hate the rich. They hate that the rich hate the poor, and keep helping themselves at the poor’s expense, and then call the arrangement freedom. Those are two different feelings, and only one of them is small.

It’s the same tell in the flag-waving that has so little to do with taking care of anyone. It wants the belonging without the bill. The story of us with none of the cost of us. It’ll wrap itself in the nation and cut the net that holds the nation’s own people in the very same breath, and never feel the seam, because it was never really about the people. It was about the power. And when the tool that’s supposed to check power gets bought by power, ordinary people go looking for a different tool. That isn’t radicalism. It’s pattern recognition. If you can map the loop, you can change the loop, and a lot of people have finally mapped this one.

The GOP wants you terrified that a fed, housed, upwardly mobile neighbor is the first step down the road to Marxism, to communism, to the gulag. This is the same GOP that cut the food aid to starving children in Africa and then watched Elon Musk become the world’s first trillionaire. Spare me the moral high ground about capitalism.

And the loudest prophet of Marx’s finish line, the world where the machines carry the load and nobody has to break their body for a paycheck, turns out to be Elon Musk. He says it constantly. The robots are coming, the work is ending, abundance is almost here. That’s Marx’s higher phase in a Tesla jacket, preached by the one man his own party would brand a communist if he weren’t a billionaire. And look at where it leaves the rest of us. We are the richest country that has ever existed, the global one percent, the excess the whole world pictures when it pictures us, and we’re told there’s no money for a doctor’s visit or a month of childcare. No money for the basics of a decent life. But there’s always money for the machines that are going to set us free. Make way for the bots.

And most of the people who want you afraid of sharing anything also want this country declared a Christian nation. So look at the founders of their own faith. The first church, the one in the book of Acts, sold their possessions and had all things in common, and handed the proceeds out to each as any had need. No state. No decree. Just a community that had decided every last person in it was worth keeping fed. The exact arrangement they now want you to hear as communism, the same word they drop over democratic socialism and a food program and a living wage until the argument dies before anyone has to make it, is the one their own scripture holds up as what a people who love each other look like. The conflation is the whole trick, the move that spares them from ever admitting out loud that they don’t believe every last one of us is worth keeping. You don’t get to wave the book and run from what’s inside it.

Which brings me, and I can’t help this, to Spock.

The line everyone half-remembers comes as he’s dying. The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few. People flinch at it, because it sounds like the crowd grinding the single life into the floor, and if that were the whole story the flinch would be earned. But the sequel tells the other half, and nobody ever quotes that part. In the next film the whole crew throws away their careers and their ship and the rules to go back for one man. For Spock. And Kirk turns the line around on purpose. The needs of the one outweigh the needs of the many.

Put the two halves together and you finally have the thing worth wanting. Not the many over the few. The many and the one. A people who won’t sacrifice the crowd for a rich man’s convenience, and won’t feed the single unlucky life to the crowd either. A refusal to write anyone off at all. What we’ve built fails both halves in one motion. It sacrifices the many for the one, and then teaches the many to call it liberty.

And liberty is the word they hand you to sell the false choice. The system, or personal responsibility. Pick a side. As if a person can’t hold both at once, that people should own their choices and that a society is measured by whether its weakest member eats. There’s no magic system. No arrangement of rules that saves us from having to actually care about each other. Communism never had one. Capitalism doesn’t either. The rules are only the container. What goes in them is us.

Why can’t the two truths sit in the same room? I have a theory, and I hold it loosely. The people who can’t hold both aren’t being stupid. They’re being loyal. A lot of them are boomers, raised by the men who came home from a war against fascism and then spent the rest of their lives braced against a real communism, the gulag kind, the kind that actually did stack the bodies. That map got handed down whole, and on it any sentence with the word share in it reads as the first tremor of the thing their fathers taught them to dread. So when you say you want people fed, they don’t hear mercy. They hear the beginning of the end. It isn’t malice. It’s an inherited map, mistaken, the way every one of us mistakes ours, for the territory itself.

So here’s where I keep landing, and I don’t have the far end of it worked out. The powerful will always reach to write the rules in their own favor. That’s gravity. What’s in our hands is smaller and harder, and it’s the same two it always was. Who we’re willing to watch, and who we let go unwatched. To each according to their leverage is the rule we’re living under right now, whether we voted for it or not.

But the first move toward changing that rule isn’t at the ballot box. It’s older and quieter than that. Every one of us is working from a map we didn’t draw. A map of manhood. A map of family. A map of what a country is and who counts inside it. A map of how a government and an economy are supposed to run, sketched for us by people who drew it in a world that no longer exists. Most of us never unfold it. We just follow it, and call the following common sense.

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Some of what’s on your map still fits. Some of it no longer fits. Some of it never did. The only way to tell is to take the thing out and look, which is the one move an inherited map is built to stop you from making. That’s the work, and it starts closer than the news. It starts with the map in your own hands, and whether you’ve got the nerve to see it for what it is. A drawing. Not the territory. I keep asking myself that one. I suspect you’ve been asking it too.

I spend my days helping people unfold the personal ones, the maps of manhood and marriage and family. The political map is the same animal. Inherited, mistaken for the ground, yours to redraw. Start with whichever one is loudest right now.

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